Being recognized by other people is an instinctive desire every human being has, and this comes from two different phases; being acknowledged and being esteemed. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, which very well describes humans’ need of pursuing happiness, both of the need for belonging and the need for esteem are positioned below the need for self-actualization. It means that the need for being acknowledged as an integral part of a society and need for being esteemed by other people are absolutely prerequisite ingredient of happiness on the way to the ultimate level of self-actualization. The definition of being acknowledged is to accept or admit the existence of someone, whereas the meaning of being esteemed is to be respected and admired. Following this kind of definition, being acknowledged can be interpreted to have its meaning rooted from moral or ethical dimension based on human dignity. It includes broad and group-based characteristics built in the socio-ethical relationship, which nobody can voice opposition against it at all. The fact that being acknowledged should be applicable to anybody regardless of personal preference has implication in negative way. Comparing to this, being esteemed requires more voluntary behavior and the breadth of its meaning is narrower than being acknowledged. It is being used in more specifically for certain people. In other words, being esteemed can be called a subset of being acknowledged. We don’t esteem all of seniors, elders, bosses, teachers, and etc. who should be acknowledged without fail. We have to acknowledge them, but we can either esteem them or not. The number of people we wholeheartedly esteem is so small. Well, where does esteem come from? Esteem has two kinds. The first kind is mainly based on mob mentality; we think that we esteem someone who is esteemed by many people. This is the case that we don’t know if we esteem him/her genuinely, but just think that we esteem him/her in a vague way because of a given accountability that we have to fulfill our duty as an integral member of the society most of whose members seem to esteem someone. Second kind of esteem is more voluntary and naturally emotional arising in our own mind when we get to see someone who has achieved excellence in a certain field, which we have also been craving for to attain in our life. Let’s suppose there are two people called A and B respectively, and another two people named X and Y respectively also. X has been craving for high quality of English proficiency, while Y would like to be a professional gambler who is unbeatable. In this case, the man X esteems should be A, not B at all while Y admires B wholeheartedly. To X, English proficiency is a big thing he is immensely interested, but gambling is out of his concern. On the contrary, the matter of interest Y has is only on gambling, not English at all. The object of their esteem is totally different according to what interest each person has most, that is, esteeming has the matter of interest as a prerequisite. As mentioned before, self-actualization is positioned at the top of the Maslow’s pyramid of human needs and below it the need for esteem is situated. On the other hand, being acknowledged as an integral member of a certain society, which is the need for belonging in Maslow’s word, is placed below the need for esteem. Being esteemed is placed higher than being acknowledged. The esteem implies recognition someone who either possesses or implement core values the majority of the society are craving for receives fully. Therefore, what we want earnestly is being esteemed, not staying at the level of being acknowledged. This undeniable truth is exactly applicable to family. As a role of husband, wife or parent, what we want to get from our spouse or children is to be esteemed, not to be merely acknowledged which is given naturally by our official role in family relationship. Being esteemed with wholehearted intention to emulate ourselves is what we look for from our spouse or children, rather being acknowledged in a passive way. To this end, we have to possess the high level of something or show our all-out efforts to get to the level in the fields our spouse or children are fully interested in. Even though a husband can drink more than other people or catch bigger fish than others, it is also possible that wife won’t give any esteem to him because she doesn’t give any value on drinking or fishing. She who would like to prepare for the future esteems her husband when he has been trying to study something in preparation for his future. The wife who had hopped around to find clothes with high quality at reasonable prices can’t get esteemed from her husband who has no interest in shopping. The husband esteems his wife when she has been developing herself. This formula is applied to the relationship between parents and children. Children who want to speak English proficiently will esteem their parents when their parents speak English very well or try to study it, since English is their greatest interest. Esteem we look forward to from our husband, our wife or our children doesn’t come from pressure for them to show it to us, rather come from high level of knowledge, capability, attitude, behavior and progress of trial in the field where our husband, wife or children are interested in truly. Now, if we would like to be esteemed by my family members, we are supposed to figure out thoroughly what they are interested in first. And then, we have to excel them in at least one field out of their interested ones or show the way we try so hard to get that. That is the first step of esteem we have to get from them. In order to do that, what we have to have is genuine communication with them.